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  Colouring Book Orders being taken Now....Sick

  by Latte in

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  just thought i'd show you this really sick colouring book.

  sure to give your child hours of nightmares.

  will also put the fear of god in them!

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  individuals wife

  Hi Latte

  I look at this picture and just wonder what sort of people would give a child this picture to colour in? It makes me sick to the bottom of my stomach and am so glad that I am no longer part of any of it.

  I always remember the occasion when I took some colouring books to the meeting for my kids to amuse themselves with.... it was quite a long time before I realised that were all colouring in pictures of Santa Claus! Would have liked to have seen some of the elders faces if they'd noticed!!!

  LOL
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  Looking to the future

  by individuals wife in

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  it was a wonderful hope to be given - to live forever in a paradise earth, never to grow old, never to suffer the aches and pains of an ageing body, to see your family grow generation after generation.

  it was a relief not having to worry about how we would survive on an old age pension, who would look after us in our twilight years or how we could manage if we were bereaved and left alone to look after ourselves with failing health.. now that the illusion has been destroyed and reality has set in it has put boundaries on our lifespan on this earth.

  we have to look at practicalities, a pension, long term health care, securing a happy and comfortable retirement.

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  individuals wife

  It was a wonderful hope to be given - to live forever in a Paradise Earth, never to grow old, never to suffer the aches and pains of an ageing body, to see your family grow generation after generation. It was a relief not having to worry about how we would survive on an old age pension, who would look after us in our twilight years or how we could manage if we were bereaved and left alone to look after ourselves with failing health.

  Now that the illusion has been destroyed and reality has set in it has put boundaries on our lifespan on this earth. We have to look at practicalities, a pension, long term health care, securing a happy and comfortable retirement. It can also be very hard to come to terms with our own mortality, we no longer have the millions of years ahead of us to fill with all the wonderful things we had planned. We may only have 60,70,80 years, maybe less, maybe more, to live our lives.

  Do you find yourself now worrying about ageing and the associated problems, things that were never considered to be part of the deal in the world of the JWs?

  I remember so often in the field service talking to people about what a wonderful prospect everlasting life was, how difficult is it to accept your own mortality and come to terms with the fact that your time on this earth is limited?

  How do feel about growing old now?
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  D.A. vs. Slow Fade

  by Black Man in

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  which is better in your estimation?

  hit the borg with a d.a.

  letter or do the slow fade.

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  individuals wife

  For me personally I felt that the best way for me to leave with my head held high was to disassociate. I wanted the elders to know exactly why I had come to my decision, I didn't want them to be in any doubt. I had a lot of angst and bitterness to offload and wanted to make sure they had the whole picture.

  I also felt as though I wanted to make a clean break, throw it all off completely, I had tried to drift away once before and found it quite difficult. It was noticed that I was drifting and I was constantly bombarded with unwanted attention, visits, phone calls, literature deliveries, I just wanted it all to go away. Eventually their tactics worked and I was trawled back in during a time of weakness.

  This time I wanted it to be final, a complete severance. And it appears to have worked, no contact from any of them at all. Life is good again!

  I know that for a lot of people disassociation is not such an easy option where there are family members still in the organisation. I appreciate that I was fortunate in being able to leave and have my husband come out with me. For others drifting quietly away may be a more appropriate course of action.
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  Self-righteousness

  by Vitameatavegamin in

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  i am brand new here.

  just thought i would add my "two cents worth" as they say.

  i basically have become very hurt and feel so let down.

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  individuals wife

  Good to have you here with us, a very big welcome to you.

  When I read your post I really felt for you, you have both been through such a traumatic time, a time when you really needed good support from those in the congregation and an acknowledgement from them that you were finding things difficult. I have found from experience that the majority of witnesses tend to lack real compassion and tend to isolate themselves from those in the congregation who may need extra support and help. I feel that you shouldnt have to go out looking for assistance - whether it be psychological or practical - it should come naturally to someone who professes to be Christian. It used to bother me that we used to have talks about how to love your brothers and sisters and how to make this love manifest. I always felt this love should be automatic in a true Christian congregation.

  It's lovely to have you here amongst us!
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  Strange ..... but true!

  by individuals wife in

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  just thought i'd share these items with you... they made me laugh anyway!

  wearing the trousers.

  anne jonsson of stockholm attacked her husband lars - leaving him with a fractured skull, broken nose, a damaged cornea and various cuts and bruises - when he refused to take her to a rally against domestic violence.

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  .........well, I thought they were funny...... obviously got a strange sense of humour!
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  For cat-loving computer geeks

  by RedhorseWoman in

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  enjoy: http://www.pro-bono.net/html/cat_manual.html

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  individuals wife

  Really enjoyed this - haven't laughed so much for ages. So accurate too.... brilliant!
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  What are your PET PEEVES? Register them here!

  by Spartacus in

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  what ticks you off, makes you grind your teeth and go absolutely nuts!

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  My pet peeve - Junk Mail or Unsolicited Mail, whatever you want to call it, drives me up the wall!

  You can be lying there in bed and you hear the postman, you make the effort to get up just in case its something exciting and what do you find when you get to the doormat... an invitation to win a car from Readers Digest, application form for external wall painting and half a dozen credit card offers.

  Junk mail... who needs it?! Just more rubbish to put in the bin.
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  Watchtower Study - Aug 12

  by hippikon in

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  though he had every right to cut off com-munication with humans, jehovah did not do so.

  enlightenment.. 5, 6. in what ways did jehovah commu-nicate with his people before the first century c.e., and how did this bene-fit them?.

  do you discern how the holy spirit has influenced your life for the better?.

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  individuals wife

  Hi Amos

  'exhausted with minding 3 small children' ..... yes, been there and done that too! And isn't it funny how no-one offers you any help even if they are all falling asleep or all fighting to sit on your lap at once!

  I remember when my husband was on the literature desk on a Thursday night, I would be in the hall with the kids, very tired and irritable, wanting to go home to bed, and we wouldn't be able to leave until nearly 10pm! The congregation would all mill around chatting and delay picking up their mags, no consideration for the little kids. I used to think it looked awful, all these children spilling out of the hall late at night, not a good advertisement for the religion!

  Isn't it good to be free!
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  Another island thread

  by Bendrr in

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  bitter mango got me going with the cd's thread.

  looks like it's one of those nights.. ok, you're stranded on an island.

  which one member of this board would you be stranded with if given the choice?.

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  individuals wife

  For me it would just have to be individual..... but then I'm extremely biased!!
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  !st Century door-door question

  by philo in

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  anybody know about hospitality customs in jesus day?.

  if the custom was to invite everyone who called inside your home for milk and cookies, and if it was rude to refuse this hospitality - the door-door ministry must have been sooo sloooow.. whatdja fink?.

  philo

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  individuals wife

  Maybe slow... but how much more appealing! And can you imagine how large you would end up if you were a pioneer!